Job interviews are the worst. Anyone who says they like job interviews is either a liar or a masochist.
You walk into a room where one or more people judge you based on a sheet of paper, a few questions, and a 5 minute review of your personality. The entire purpose is to answer the question, “Am I a good fit”.
If we are honest; “Am I a good fit” really means “Do you like me”.
More often than not, the answer is “No.”
Dating is just as bad. Those first few dates exist to answer the question, “Are you good enough” which really means, “Am I good enough”.
Once, after I complained to my friend Stella about how much I dislike dating, she laughed and reassured me, “No one likes dating.”
And why should they? You either meet some subjective criteria that is constantly changing or your get rejected.
Rejection hurts. It hurts when they never call you about the job. It hurts when the date goes bad. And it hurts when someone rejects your dream.
- J.K Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was rejected by twelve publishers.
- Abraham Lincoln lost 8 elections (including one reelection).
- Colonel Sanders was broke and in his 60’s when he decided to start Kentucky Fried Chicken. His recipe was rejected by over 1,000 restaurants before someone took the slightest bit of interest.
When rejection comes it always feels personal. It is never the resume, the idea, or the bad shirt that got rejected. It is me. It is you.
After rejection there are two choices: give up or keep moving forward.
- J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series has sold over 400 million copies.
- Abraham Lincoln was elected the 16th President of the United States.
- Colonel Sanders sold his chicken company for 15 million dollars.
The point? Rejection is never a good enough reason to quit. It may force you to reflect on what you are doing. It could be the beginning of a change in direction. It may even be the catalyst to letting go of an idea. But, if your only reason for giving up is rejection, then you have made the wrong choice. Choose to keep moving forward.
What excuse have you been using to justify your fear or rejection? What are you going to do to change that? Let me know in the comments.