Always Move Forward

Job inter­views are the worst. Anyone who says they like job inter­views is either a liar or a masochist.

You walk into a room where one or more people judge you based on a sheet of paper, a few questions, and a 5 minute review of your person­ality. The entire purpose is to answer the question, “Am I a good fit”.

Guy Preparing for interview in suit

If we are honest; “Am I a good fit” really means “Do you like me”.

More often than not, the answer is “No.”

Dating is just as bad. Those first few dates exist to answer the question, “Are you good enough” which really means, “Am I good enough”.

Once, after I complained to my friend Stella about how much I dislike dating, she laughed and reassured me, “No one likes dating.”

And why should they? You either meet some subjec­tive criteria that is constantly changing or your get rejected.

Rejection

Rejection hurts. It hurts when they never call you about the job. It hurts when the date goes bad. And it hurts when someone rejects your dream.

  • J.K Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was rejected by twelve publishers.
  • Abraham Lincoln lost 8 elections (including one reelection).
  • Colonel Sanders was broke and in his 60’s when he decided to start Kentucky Fried Chicken. His recipe was rejected by over 1,000 restau­rants before someone took the slightest bit of interest.

When rejection comes it always feels personal. It is never the resume, the idea, or the bad shirt that got rejected. It is me. It is you.

Two Choices

After rejection there are two choices: give up or keep moving forward.

  • J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series has sold over 400 million copies.
  • Abraham Lincoln was elected the 16th President of the United States.
  • Colonel Sanders sold his chicken company for 15 million dollars.

The point? Rejection is never a good enough reason to quit. It may force you to reflect on what you are doing. It could be the beginning of a change in direction. It may even be the catalyst to letting go of an idea. But, if your only reason for giving up is rejection, then you have made the wrong choice. Choose to keep moving forward.

What excuse have you been using to justify your fear or rejection? What are you going to do to change that? Let me know in the comments.

13 Responses to “Always Move Forward”

  1. Brandon February 3, 2011 at 9:35 AM #

    Rejection will always be there…you just can’t be controlled by it! Here is what I would have to say for a rejected job! haha

    Have you ever had a resume rejected? Don’t ever let it happen again. The next time that nasty old rejection letter comes your way, respond with your own:

    Dear [Interviewer’s Name]:

    Thank you for your letter of [Date]. After careful consid­er­a­tion I regret to inform you that I am unable to accept your refusal to offer me employ­ment with your firm. This year I have been partic­u­larly fortunate in receiving an unusually large number of rejection letters. With such a varied and promising field of candi­dates it is impos­sible for me to accept all refusals.

    Despite [company name]‘s outstanding qual­i­fi­ca­tions and previous expe­ri­ence in rejecting appli­cants, I find that your rejection does not meet with my needs at this time. Therefore, I will initiate employ­ment with your firm beginning on [Date]. I look forward to seeing you then.

    Best of luck in rejecting future candidates.

    Sincerely,

    [Your Name]

    • Alex February 4, 2011 at 7:31 PM #

      haha! That’s funny

  2. dustin February 3, 2011 at 11:16 PM #

    what a great post. i didnt know about all those stats. very interesting.

    i think for me, i fear rejection so often because i seek the approval of people. defi­nitely a struggle of mine and one i have to ‘give up’ all the time.

    • Alex February 4, 2011 at 7:33 PM #

      That’s a good point. I struggle with that too. The question needs to move away from “Am I good enough for you?”

  3. Mike Luna February 4, 2011 at 10:36 PM #

    The worst is when someone tries to soften the blow by making up excuses that are obviously lies.

    Like, when I went in for an interview at Racetrac and the guy told me he wasn’t sure if they were hiring because the economy was so bad.
    First of all, if you’re the hiring manager, shouldn’t you know whether or not you’re hiring? Further­more, why are you inter­viewing me if you’re not even sure if you’re hiring?

    I know he was trying to be nice, but he could have done it in a way that made a little more sense.

    • Alex February 5, 2011 at 11:51 AM #

      Yeah,

      I never under­stand things like that.

      We may not be hiring…that’s why we’re interviewing…”

      That’s like saying, “You’re overqual­i­fied.” Does it really mean anything?

      • Mike Luna February 5, 2011 at 1:40 PM #

        I don’t think it does, Alex. I don’t think it does at all.

        Getting turned down by a girl is a similarly frus­trating practice. They try to be nice, but in my expe­ri­ence it just makes you feel worse.

        • Alex February 5, 2011 at 2:36 PM #

          Yeah, I don’t know how many girls have tried to make excuses instead of just saying “no.” I once sat down with a girl, looked her in the eyes and said, “Be mean.”

          She didn’t cuss him out or anything, she just said, “I do not want to date you” and for her that was the worst thing in the world. For him, he moved on the next time. Up until that point she was dragging him along and didn’t even realize it

          • Mike Luna February 6, 2011 at 2:54 AM #

            I’ve been there and it is ter­ri­ble. Be direct. Say what you mean.

            It’s like a band-aid. Just pull it off.

  4. Mike Luna February 5, 2011 at 3:27 PM #

    I’ve been there and it is terrible. Be direct. Say what you mean.

    It’s like a band-aid. Just pull it off.

  5. Brandon February 5, 2011 at 4:21 PM #

    Adding to this conver­sa­tion… I just (for the most part…some situ­a­tions you need to bite your tongue.) say what needs to be said. It is not profes­sional or right to “beat around the bush”. Just be point-blank and direct about issues.

    • Alex February 5, 2011 at 4:55 PM #

      I agree, and there is a way to be blunt without being harsh. lol

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