The hardest part of doing anything is taking the first step. Starting something new scares me. When you or I actually take a step to start something an icy cold hand grips our heart. It grips mine anyway. It reaches inside of me and wraps itself around my greatest hope and does everything in its power to stop me.
I can’t get too mad at fear, I encourage it every step of the way: I justify my fear, I tell myself it doesn’t matter or that someone else is already doing what I want to do. I am probably not that good anyway. And it would be hard; I don’t have time for something that difficult when mediocrity is so easy!
In his book “The War of Art” Steven Pressfield calls this fear Resistance. Resistance is the reason most of us want to write a book but never do. Why so many dream of being their own boss while never taking steps to do so. It is why painters don’t paint. It is why a couple will spend their entire life dreaming of retirement while never investing a single dollar. Resistance is the reason this blog is beginning in January 2011 and not October 2010. It is the reason I have had multiple book ideas over the past five years while never writing a single page.
Every day people change the course of their lives. How do they do it? They think differently.
That is both the easiest and hardest thing a person can do.
Have you heard about the man who, after learning he only has three months to live, quits his job and becomes a painter. A year later the cancer is officially in remission but he doesn’t pick up his old life, he continues on as a successful painter. He says he has never been happier. How is this possible? How does an executive become a painter? He changes his thinking! That is the only thing that ever changes anyone.
Death does not cause people to change; it causes them to step back and see how necessary change is. It gives them a reason to overcome resistance.
With this blog post I officially take the first step in overcoming my resistance. How about you? Do you need to be told you will die before you live the life of your dreams? Can you change your life right now by deciding it will be different? I believe you can.
What dream are you terrified of living? Let me know in the comments.